Losing a spouse due to an affair is comparable to the death of a spouse. That is so not true!

This is why no contact is so important.

You are not the cause of the affair. Iv read so mych literature about narcissists abusers alcoholucs bipolar etcand i know that this is about his issues not minebut im so frustrated its as tho hes got some attention of another woman and therefore cast me aside after 4 yrs of me trying to support him! Its agony. Once the trust is broken you will never get the truth back. I have a hard time accusing myself at this point.

Sometimes its better to let go of someone . I knew something was wrong when I got back as he has a tendency to lie..plus he had been drinking a lot and I mean a lot which is never good..anyway he got so drunk one night he left his computer on and thats when I found all sick messages and lies hed been telling this other woman and all the nude photos he had taken of himself..God knows what he has done with them.

Yes Nikki .. I have read many articles since we separated and she is definitely narcissistic.

Why do I still love this man and why cant I move forward?

Then what really was the nail in the coffin was when he was arrested for domestic abuse with the woman he left me for. Required fields are marked *, document.getElementById("comment").setAttribute( "id", "a731fd4cc97fed7e6515b5eb9c1d884f" );document.getElementById("a3a4d235df").setAttribute( "id", "comment" );Comment *. Remember this too, successfully detaching will not eliminate their behavior,because their dysfunctional traits and characteristics are virtually cast in stone.

Found out just two weeks ago my wife of forty plus years has had a string of affairs, going back at least twelve years. Marriage is not that simple, and. I need him so bad right now, perhaps more than I ever did. Move on theres many good women out there looking for a good man! I was heartbroken but it didnt stop there. If you truly want to avoid divorce, you must demonstrate that you are capable of real change. Her Brother in law. Then I found out from him that he cheated on me throughout our 12 year relationship (married almost 10), he did not love me, and he probably used me to get into the US (he is British). You are shutting out the part about what led you two to begin talking about divorce which led to you and this other man. Momof2. Dont get me wrong, I did MOST things wrong in the last 2 years (in reaction to the situation) but all I can do from here is to try my best to live as full a life as I can, be as good a mother as possible, and let god take it from there. Irs agonizing. Many people, even therapists Ive seen, cannot seem to grasp my experience.

Ultimately, marriage will work if both of you are matured and ready in many ways, but what happens when you rush into marriage?

havent work for 11 years, financially broken due his lies, no place to go except women shelter or rental room. I dont want to divorce. A lot of people use the word pathological freely but sadly, I have now experienced someone who truly IS pathological and when youre actually faced with itits scary. He is a cop and he thought he was God. Trust me, when you get to do that, you will feel a strong sense of independence knowing you are able to provide for your family and you can stand on your own two feet without having to worry about having a spouse who will just walk away when life gets tough. Take time to know the person you love.

SHE can have himfrom what I hear hes now cheating on HER with someone else. But because of the affair, she was emotionally preoccupied and filed divorce. I know that nobody is a perfect spouse, but you dont sign up for perfection you sign up to treat your spouse and family with integrity and respect. Nothing mattered to her about the marriage, and over a year later she hasnt once expressed any interest in talking to me about the marriage except to get money. What I regret the most is not being able for both my ex and I to explain together to our son that we were divorcing My ex refused to have that conversation together yet he had no issues with introducing his girlfriend to our son as daddys new friend which left our son upset and confused.

Our stories are so similar, its quite bizarre really. To ask for my forgiveness.

i got pregnant in this 5 days aswell and after that he humiliated and harassed me even more. He could have done things differently, he could have made it easier for me to carry on, he could have warned me from a business perspective what his plans were and when he intended to carry them out. I cant claim to have been a perfect husband, but I have loved her with all my heart. Heres a video that will help you figure out when you are ready for marriage: Remember rushing into marriage may only lead to disappointments and divorce. I told her unless she gets help, she will leave the children with me along with the house. Get the help you need from a therapist near youa FREE service from Psychology Today. And N looks like mine is going to marry his young affair partner soon as well (from the looks of things). Pray daily and be still, listen to God he has great plans for you. 6 Kinds Of Compliments Men Would Love To Hear More Often, 3 Lies You Were Told as a Boy That are Now Crushing You as a Man, 50 Sufferers Describe Depression for People Whove Never Been Depressed, The First Myth of Patriarchy: The Acorn on the Pillow, What We Talk About When We Talk About Men: The Top 12 Issues Men Face Today, Guys: Emotions Matter, Are Normal, and You're Not Weak for Having Them, 5 Heartbreaking Lessons Every Parent Must Learn. But you just eventually have to let them go He needed you and hes into his next victim. He was married twice and even had an affair while married to my sister in law (second wife), AND NOW hes having an affair with my wife. If you dont mind me asking, what do you mean by saying that I should have given her more time to think things through? Many couples of our parents generation white-knuckled it through decades of unhappiness rather than endure the stigma of divorce.

I have let a lot of things go over the years mainly because we are joint tenants on the mortgage and I put the majority share in. Yes I to am sorry for everyone here, My partner of 29 years has been lying and cheating on me for a very long time.

I am afraid of being rejected but nothing beats a failure but a try. I am so grateful and blessed that I am still here today. It frustrates me that the law PROTECTS these abandoning spouses, but doesnt protect the CHILDREN from the Affair Partners.to me that seems INSANE. My ex cheated on me emotionally and became very selfish and angry at me when I found out. Do not withdraw it after your spouse keeps his or her end of the bargain. Put an end to it And keep your self worth.

I had peace, he never found peace. We are not in control anyhow. Wish You the best of luck, thanks for sharing! You are shutting out the part about what led you two to begin talking about divorce which led to you and this other man. There is always light in the darkness.

Your children need a relationship with their Mother. Sorry to have taken so long to respond.

He now wants to act like my beat friend while he is dating several women at once. Life is so much better for me now. She begins to dip into the waters by making herself more open to the approaches of other men, letting them flirt with her and her flirting back. and Lin, I-F. He And something was just nagging me about this, so i called the travel agent we use, and asked him when she is coming back and he told me, then i asked him who all went and he said my wife and vanessa, and i said and who else? I gave it all to God. Like the way you talked to your husband in that condescending tone was not one of the biggest reasons he strayed and the way you just sat in front of the television all the time and never helped around in the house or just hugged your wife for the wonderful life she provides, didnt make her seek adoration and affection elsewhere. In the beginning, things were great. If you find yourself asking your partner about your dream home, where you will live after you have settled down, or even how many kids you want, these are things that often lead to marriage. If anyone has any insight on this, my broken heart would love to hear from you. You start feeling that everyone around you is settling down and that they are all leaving you behind. He is married to Lark Dill Howell and they are the parents of Benton and Lauren. See if they are honorable of commitment.

How Accurately Do Narcissists Perceive Their Partners? I filed for divorce , went through with it, end of story. August 14, 2018.

We all have to find a way to move on past this. But yethes running right towards it. Of course my comment via text was wow it sure is expensive to have someone tell you everything you want here.

Its heartbreaking. Please dont blame the one that was hurt by this.

but there were so many signs the entire 15 yrs of being with him. I left everything to God. Speak victory, not fear. The symptoms all match up, and when you argue with someone with this disorder it can be incredibly frustrating. While I still blame my ex husband for his affairs, the mistresses were a part of it. Stopped paying all bills , stopped paying his sons college tuition, the mortgage etc. Hi Wifehadanaffair. I cannot heal with him still around. I do not blame you. Your son needs you to be a role model. I just finished reading a book called husband , liar, sociopath. On top of it all he is hiding his assets in his dads name and wants half my house.i still wanted to work things out! Prioritization. Exactly! He finally left me 6 months later for another woman. First the things not to do, then the things that you should do. They reconnected more than 40 years later after his wife died, and she had divorced after a long and troubled marriage to an emotionally abusive alcoholic. Remind yourself of the things that truly matter. That is an act of pure cowardice and disrespect (not just to the spouse but to the children). Apparently she never loved me,she liked me were her words. Im confused with the dont collapse part. Forcing your children to accept your lover (or any new partner) before theyve had time to emotionally process the divorce: This one is especially self-serving. Yes I was ashamed I was married to this crazy pick addict ,who is also a police officer.

Our parents were friends. He chose to cut his father out of his life because he discovered that it would not be healthy. I hope you can find peace. I am just flabbergasted at how any woman could do this and give up a devoured husband who forgave her and was a dedicated husband and father for 20 years. It was probably the number one reason we just didnt up and leave, obviously hoping that one day it will get better. And for the first time in 2 yearsI can see him (them) from a distance, and it looks like a sad, sad picture to me. If you have or have had strong women in your life look at what they have endured. This blog is my how-to guide for modern women who want to create a welcoming home, cook fabulous meals, and stay fit and chic at any age.

See if they are trust worthy.

The second miscarriage, he said such cruel things to make me feel like less of a woman. Today I cant get out of bed Im on a roller coaster of emotions I just dont know where to start to deal with all this crap. There are rays of light, periods of relief, moments of. Do you always try to open the topic about settling down? I think so. We were divorced in August 2015 after she was declared an alcoholic who lies, cheats, steals and created extensive abuse to us all.

So asking will just make it worse. He did none of this.

We have to understand that every marriage is different. My body was screaming at me and making me sick to the point of surgery (ulcers) before I woke up. One study stressed that unemployment not retirement was present in many older divorcing couples. There are actually no more burden than before the divorce since I was the only one who took care of them following their infancy. LET IT GO LET IT GO! Sure, it all crushed her-my sudden decision, my endless generosity, and the fact that her soul mate was stomping all over her heart but Id had enough.

I have nosupport no support because I have chosen to stay. And eventually the wife will find out about her girlfriend and me, and when she does and goes off at me, then i tell her what is wrong with that, it was fine for you and Vanessa to take a couple of guys to china with u and never tell me, and also tell her, and i hope the guy and u have not been an item for a while, cause if so, he would not be happy hearing about the 3 nights before u went to china.

This can be broken off and run with many other disorders such as narcistic personality disorder for example. He even tried to hit on me for money with his self pitying act. Couldnt get it. Marriage and starting your own family dont come cheap. Do Be Patient.

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I was ready to go to war.

Rather than talk to me about it, or try counselling, she chose to have an affair. So i said yea ok, sure, where do u want me to meet u, and she said well i could come to your place, first time by the way she has ever been to my place since we split. Its been a tough few years when I reflect on the marriage though, there are no happy memories whatsoever. I dont regret it because it has made me wise and empathetic to those who have walked in my footsteps. Being used by God feels good. Working through them will help improve your ability to connect and communicate with a romantic partner (whether it be your current spouse or someone new).

I just never thought he could be so cruel. I lost a bright career and still feel broken a year and a half later. This outdated statistic has many young people hesitant to tie the knot. 8 Signs Indicating Insecurity in Relationships, If you find yourself asking your partner about your. How not to win friends and influence people. Maybe I should add, Im in great health, slim, full head of hair, work out and we really have no money problems, so her expressed disdain has more to do with perceived emotional issues. If there is no truth, there is no trust, there cant be love. So grateful for s good attorney and for staying strong during the most difficult time in my life. W.S. If we were divorced either one of those 2 times; she would have gotten more than she deserved.

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With our divorce rate in the world increasing dramatically and experiencing this woman who turned evil (or maybe already was behind my blinded eyes) and actually forget the children she bore, proves to me that Satan is working extremely hard and much harder as time goes on to lie, kill and destroy and that Jesus is very close. Thank God for good divorce attorneys. its hard for me to focus on my daughter, on the future.

I dont know your whole story, but I am sure if she felt the way I did it would have made a world of difference if my ex husband would have come to me out of compassion more than out of frustration and damnation. For most couples, its the ultimate goal that will seal your love for each other. My ex inflicted so much pain on me and my son. Its difficult to accept that. You will have a long road ahead of you to repair the damage you have caused. He took my husband out of my life, he defeated evil. She moved just 1/4 mile away; has no restrictions on seeing or being with or talking to our children, but shows NO interest in them and when they talk on the phone always has some reason why they she cant see them. Getting married also means you need to be more mature and be able to take in more responsibilities in life.

I feel like Im damaged goods now, like no man will ever want to be with me. Not only did he wreck multiple businesses, screw up business associates finances, try cheating with their wives, wooed, coerced, younger women, posted ads on dating sites, cheated more than 3x, came crying back and pulling the he didnt do anything wrong boo hooo life is unfair hissy pissy fits, he managed to dupe friends, family, church associates, members of the community of what a great and upstanding father, friend, & all-around good guy, and husband. He refused to see a counsellor, doctor, therapist. You become too excited about moving to the next step, even if you are just starting to know each other. Stay strong. Anyhow, 3 months ago she told me she wants a divorce, and we separated 6 weeks ago.

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He hid assets and took and hid my money, bought all kinds of tools and stuff for him and his kids and wouldnt even buy me a birthday card (he pulled a card from a church charity pile.)

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Ive lived with it now 3 years since my wife admitted to the first of many affairs. I am glad I got rid of this liar . According to her, most of her problems are because of me. The only good to come from this is our son. None of these helps your cause if you wish to save your marriage. Im really on a rollercoaster of a day. Its devastating and most women dont even know until its too late. With regards to the possibility of a legal separation now and then divorce in the future (presumably 2 years separation and consent) obviously there would be increased Did you honor all 10 commandments from the Bible all the time? Theres a WAY to leave someone and it doesnt involved cheating and bailing without remorse and sprinting off happily with your mistress. And also act like i know nothing about 2 guys going with her and her girlfriend, if she still wants to when she gets back, if she still wants to come to my place and have wild sex with me, sure, why not? This article explains me to a T. I have been bantering and uncharacteristically contacting this person I put so much of my faith into. Thank God.

I cant deny that in even the slightest bit.

Here are my top 4 reasons why you should not rush your divorce: 1. Cos they genuinely suck as partners and we deserve to be with somebody who respects and cherishes us! Hope is the last thing that goes away a doctor told me back then years ago.

Instead of trying to prove a point, you need to realize your faults (we all have them) and forgive yourself. I only posted what I did to show that getting revenge is bitter sweet and for some could be downright dangerous. Our sons will have nothing to do with him.

Anyways, luckily your opinion does not define who I am, but rather who you are. It takes strength to work at saving a marriage when your spouse wants to leave. I am amazed at the ability of a woman to give up all 3 of her children in order to be with her boyfriend who she has know for just a few months. She did t come home for 3 days. Exercise. | Now I am taking her to court, solely based off of her actions and lack of remorse and desire to continue to inflict pain.

So we sat at my kitchen table and i read the contract, gave her my thoughts and changes i felt she should consider, etc. But you know when youre being used. he blamed all on me telling me we were done 3 years ago. She even used our children as pawns to get a better separation agreement. Focus on YOU , not him.

At least, many of them do! She has no problem using the debit card to get her nails and everything else done on my dime. Marriage is a lifetime commitment. Yet, I dont feel vindicated at the end of today and all that I have done as pay back. Infatuation is romance and sex rolled into one colossal high. Webwhy is my husband rushing divorce point park dance audition requirements. To the people who cheat on their spouses , I can only say shame on you, you are the biggest cowards , liars and losers . The psychology of keeping someone on the back-burner. An apology requires a mature, responsible person with humility, good character and a conscience. He stopped paying the mortgage, his sons college tuition and left my life in shambles.

I actually dont know why Ive cried so much over some one I have no future with who is a compulsive liar and uses the Internet for his sexual needs. Lifted your hands to him/her. It may be a pastor, a friend, a parent, or even one or more of your children (if mature).

At night, she never wants to see any of her family again.

Even though there were pictures to prove he still had to blame me. Please fill out all required fields to submit your message. So I was pretty sure shed be able to get along on her own and find some semblance of an alternative happiness in her future, even if thats what she said she couldnt do. I understand and feel your pain. The only contact with the most severe psychiatric disorders there are is no contact and nobody can help them not even the love

He stole from me, people I knew, companies, etc.

I was sad to read your story .

I admit I still have trust issues. Are you being honest with yourself you were a good spouse, great spouse, and he was so terrible, he pushed you into the arms of another? You are also welcome to call us for assistance finding a therapist. Its helps wring stuff on here.

Talking about dreams and goals in life is one thing, but making them a reality is another. 15 years I had known that man. Intimacy helps you feel connected in your relationship. Anyway. Being too aggressive and rushing into marriage isnt going to make your partner fall in love with you even more. Glad he is not my problem anymore.

I am doubting my self as a person. I take my girls at every second weekend and each Wednesday. He tried to destroy me. She gone through bankruptcies, debt..Yet, she is still here. IF the truth were actually a consideration there would be a TON of women in jail for perjury.

I know I am responsible for not picking myself up soon er but this is the most painful experience of my life. Its so odd to see momof2 here say all the same things my cheating wife said. When I hear Carrie Underwood sing I too know your pain oh so well..my wife cheated on me after 17 yrs and thought nothing of it nor does to this date..does not care what her kids feel or her family. and i said sure, why not. The person you have apologised to stares everyday at the mess you have made. 1) She proved her character. Marriage is a decision that will last a lifetime, so enjoy the process, take your time to get to know each other, and enjoy being in love. Make no pun or mistake about it, his life will always be about his wants, needs, & desires. In fact, the girl who organized our wedding even coached the entire affair and divorce.

My reason for living. Empathy makes the difference between a healthy and unhealthy relationship. In fact he put very little in. She was married to a severely mentally ill man who died young from lung cancer and he says she talks him through his rough times. I told her specifically that in order to continue in our marriage I needed to hear exactly what we were dealing with. Anyhow she told me while ago she was going to china in September to visit her parents and not sure if she was going even to come back to Canada. Its amazing how one day, a spouse can just walk away from responsibilities and all they can focus on is themselves. It has been the most helpful I have found so far. Was I to blame as he said?

I was SO IN LOVE with him and he is just a jerk. Let the loser go. When you realize its not them.you control the direction of your life you learn through the process. I have named this pain, is mine alone to cherish or to release into the universe and so I realize now that in order to pick up the pieces and move on with my life I must learn the final lessonlove forgives and sometimes it doesnt, but real love can only be achieved when both people choose to forgive and ask for forgiveness, without that there is no love.



After 20 years he wanted his freedom , he wanted ha Harley Davidson motorcycle , his income for himself, he wanted young minions for sex.

I am not sure how I would deal with your situation because of the minor kids. Journal of Family Issues 24, No. Is there another woman? Talking about marriage early in a relationship may mean that you are already contemplating the thought in your head, and this will lead to you rushing your relationship too quickly. But honestly you need to tell the real reason you are getting divorced. I wanted to scream.

Its selfish , evil and destructive.

How do you know if you are rushing into marriage? In my case though it was not a simple split and everyone gets to start over. When her husband dropped the divorce bomb, Jenny Kanevsky had to deal with the fallout. Within that time she turned the whole thing around on me. Surround your-self with positive friends that will encourage you and remember you are worthy. Im tired of trying to figure out what went wrong and how I ended up here. What did I do wrong? I found out about her affair, confronted her, then she turned it back on me, blame shifted back upon me. I see my ex at family functions. Consistently ridiculing your estranged spouse in front of your children: Creating loyalty conflicts wont serve your children well. You will get there .. dont quit now, lord knows I was close to doing things that I never thought myself capable of .. but time as they say does heal and if you can keep yourself intact you will come out stronger and ready to love again. Wow wife had affair- But I hear you generalizing the abused/cheated on party as we never look at ourselves. She was having an affair with this guy before she left.

I am not sure if they are happy or not. Then he filed for divorce.
Im afraid that by the time this is all said and done no one will speak to me, as it appears they are taking my spouses side. No affairs, mental illness. Connect to a strong faith family. I only hope my son overcomes his fathers shortcomings. The many accusations I got from being to sensitive. Theyre getting divorced too. I had my weapons and my shield. I bet those hours will turn into days, days into weeks and so on.